Category Archives: Mindset

Want to get laid?

I recently opened an email from a colleague of mine in which he said he knew why we all exercise and it’s glaringly obvious (to him), and it’s because we all want to get laid! He might not be far from the truth but I can’t believe someone said it!

When you think about deep down the reasons that you exercise do you honestly think it’s because you want to get laid?

I’m going to be sexist here… I do think men are highly motivated by money and sex (and only money ’cause it will get them more sex – or admiration and respect, and therefore have chicks wanting to sleep with them which pretty much means the same thing, no?)

So do we ALL (guys and girls) just want to get laid?

I know sometimes, (depending upon my mood) I find it offensive that that’s what guys think about all the time, but then sometimes I also think ‘the poor buggers’, ‘they can’t help it’. I guess it makes them kind of simple and easy to read, but therefore easy to please (the one you are in a relationship with anyway).

Too controversial for you? Have I hit a nerve? Aren’t I just telling the truth? Well why do you exercise…?

So why do I exercise?

..well to be honest of course I exercise to look great naked. (I have to say I do also exercise as it keeps me sane – Or slightly less psycho…haha). I don’t care how skinny you are, some people still don’t look any good in a bikini. You know it.

Now I’m not about being that critical of other peoples bodies I think all people (especially females) need and deserve to feel gorgeous naked and with clothes on. REGARDLESS of their size. Self esteem is soooo undervalued and so important in life, if you ask me.

Now, if you are a girl reading this I want you to know you can start to feel like that NOW!

Don’t wait until you have the perfect body (I’ll discuss the difference in my headspace of when I was fat vs. thin in the next email), but I can promise you that the biggest ‘leap’ forward you can take towards looking HOT naked is to change your mind set. NOW.

I know that may not sound logical or make sense but you really have to try and ‘get it’ if you don’t get it already. Confidence is incredibly attractive and you do lose 5 kg automatically when you stand up straight.

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and I’ll see you on the lean, ‘Sexy’ side,

which could be in the next few minutes depending upon what you tell yourself 😉

Goal Setting – Should You Be Realistic?

goal settingNew year, new you, right?

Or are you just setting yourself up for failure again? So you may as well not bother writing down or setting any goals, in case they are unattainable and you break them within one week of that infamous goal setting month, the biggest ‘Monday’ of the year as I like to refer to it, that’s right, New Years Day.

Personally I’m all for setting goals. To me it feels like you get to write the story, the story of your life that is, rather than leaving it for someone else to design. Some people find that stressful, I think of it more like an adventure… anything can happen (and its even better when what YOU want to happen happens – or rather, you finally pull it off. You have to believe it will though and you have to look at the goals every day and put in the work too).

So get to designing your life and see how creative you can be.

 

Here’s another few things to consider for you when you are ‘designing your life’ for 2015..

– Maybe we should throw the SMART system (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, time based) out the window.. you choose.

– Perhaps your goals should scare the crap out of you. Perhaps you work better if they aren’t scary.

– Definitely write it down and put a time frame on it.

– Remember as many possible aspects of your life; educational, spiritual, emotional, family, relationships, career, money.. and not in any order.

– You may feel selfish but you should also be incredibly excited by the thought of them coming true.

– Plan/imagine DAILY what it will be like when they do come true.

– What are your health plans for 2015?

Click below to look at the desire yearly planner I’m personally using next year from Danielle Laporte; Yearly planner from Danielle Laporte.desire diary Danielle Laporte

“The human brain doesn’t know the difference between imagination and memory” – Unknown

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9 things I personally do to stay lean and feeling awesome

Kate Martin11. I never (ok very, VERY rarely) tell myself I’m fat – anymore. I used to when I was post baby, but that’s another story. Never, ever, this is sooo critical to you getting what you want from your body. Try this – whenever you hear yourself say these things to yourself, you are honestly going to get more of it so stop, acknowledge what needs to be done, distract yourself from thinking like that and get on with it.

2. I try not to believe my own b.s. excuses..Trust me I have them. So does EVERYONE. But I also have many, many people in my life who call me on it.. as much as I dislike it sometimes, they are often right. Surround yourself with these honest b.s. calling people if you want to get anywhere apart from believing your own b.s. and wallowing in it but wondering why things (your body, life – whatever situation) is still the same. What are you b.s-ing yourself about at the moment?

3. I am accountable to someone/something to the point where if I don’t do it I will be either 1 – REALLY embarrassed as I’ve public-ally claimed something, or 2. I will lose my money (and usually a lot of it) as I’m paying for advice so I’d better implement what I’m paying for.

4. I change my exercise program to things I’d prefer not to do. Eg. I will spend a certain period (3-4 weeks) lifting just heavy or doing high reps.

5. I try to stick to things long enough to see results – in the health and fitness game anyway. Realistically I think you feel a difference in 1-2 weeks and after 3-4 weeks you see it. Try not to waiver during this time, try not to listen to the opinions of others during this time either if that will make you lose your focus. Which brings me to my next point.

6. I don’t care what I look like/what other people think if I am doing what’s different to the norm. Eg. I often eat out of a plastic container at inappropriate times (I figure I’m not going to stay home just because I am following x, y, z diet because I thoroughly enjoy socializing with my friends – and the real ones will love you no matter how strange your behaviour, so long as you aren’t harming anyone), even though they do sometimes think I’m crazy or embarrassing.

7. I get out of my comfort zone/learn something new. This stretches the mind and I’ll admit I do need to do this more often. But achieving things you didn’t think you could do, even if it’s, for example, lifting weights that were shit scared of does translate to the rest of your life and the confidence spreads throughout your life and into other parts.

8. I don’t calorie restrict anymore – (yes I’ve done it before, when I was desperate to lost weight after having my bub) for more than several weeks at a time. I really do want my brain function to be at an all time high. Girls you really honestly GROW fat cells when you calorie restrict, be careful and have an excellent eating plan which includes healthy saturated fats for when you come off it is all I’ll say on that.

9. I use the mantra ‘I love myself’. Try saying it to yourself at regular intervals throughout the day. Your entire world (internal and external) can change just because of this one thing. Cheers to being awesome! 🙂

I’m sure there’s more than 10 but I want you to share with me yours!

What do you do/have done in the past that’s worked? Change your mind and the body will follow I say.

Sleep secrets

Sleep SecretsIf you are having sleep problems, whether you are not able to fall asleep, wake up too often, don’t feel well-rested when you wake up in the morning, or simply want to improve the quality and quantity of your sleep, try as many of the following techniques below as possible (then look at addressing nutrition deficiencies – low levels of magnesium in the body also contribute to poor sleep patterns – if you are going to supplement with magnesium make sure it is ‘chelated’. For a magnesium I personally use and recommend, click here.)

The below article is something I have used with my clients for years and it’s from the ‘mercola.com’ website. Thanks Dr Joseph:

  • Listen to white noise or relaxation CDs. Some people find the sound of white noise or nature sounds, such as the ocean or forest, to be soothing for sleep.
  • Avoid before-bed snacks, particularly grains and sugars. This will raise blood sugar and inhibit sleep. Later, when blood sugar drops too low (hypoglycemia), you might wake up and not be able to fall back asleep.
  • Sleep in complete darkness or as close as possible. If there is even the tiniest bit of light in the room it can disrupt your circadian rhythm and your pineal gland’s production of melatonin and serotonin. There also should be as little light in the bathroom as possible if you get up in the middle of the night. Please whatever you do, keep the light off when you go to the bathroom at night. As soon as you turn on that light you will for that night immediately cease all production of the important sleep aid hormone, melatonin.
  • No TV (or computer use) right before bed. Even better, get the TV out of the bedroom or at least avoid watching it 1 hour before bedtime. It is too stimulating to the brain and it will take longer to fall asleep. Also disruptive of pineal gland function for the same reason as above.
  • Wear socks to bed. Due to the fact that they have the poorest circulation, the feet often feel cold before the rest of the body. A study has shown that this reduces night wakings.
  • Read something spiritual or religious. This will help to relax. Don’t read anything stimulating, such as a mystery or suspense novel, as this may have the opposite effect. In addition, if you are really enjoying a suspenseful book, you might wind up unintentionally reading for hours, instead of going to sleep.
  • Journaling. If you often lay in bed with your mind racing, it might be helpful keep a journal and write down your thoughts before bed. Personally, I have been doing this for 15 years, but prefer to do it in the morning when my brain is functioning at its peak and my coritsol levels are high.
  • Melatonin and its precursors. If behavioural changes do not work, it may be possible to improve sleep by supplementing with the hormone melatonin. However, I would exercise extreme caution in using it, and only as a last resort, as it is a powerful hormone. Ideally it is best to increase levels naturally with exposure to bright sunlight in the daytime (along with full spectrum fluorescent bulbs in the winter) and absolute complete darkness at night. One should get blackout drapes so no light is coming in from the outside. One can also use one of melatonin’s precursors, L-tryptophan or 5-hydroxytryptophan (5-HTP). L-tryptophan is the safest and my preference, but must be obtained by prescription only. However, don’t be afraid or intimidated by its prescription status. It is just a simple amino acid.
  • Get to bed as early as possible. Our systems, particularly the adrenals, do a majority of their recharging or recovering during the hours of 11 p.m. and 1 a.m. In addition, your gallbladder dumps toxins during this same period. If you are awake, the toxins back up into the liver which then secondarily back up into your entire system and cause further disruption of your health. Prior to the widespread use of electricity, people would go to bed shortly after sundown, as most animals do, and which nature intended for humans as well.
  • Check your bedroom for electro-magnetic fields (EMFs). These can disrupt the pineal gland and the production of melatonin and seratonin, and may have other negative effects as well. To purchase a gauss meter to measure EMFs try Cutcat at 800-497-9516. They have a model for around $40. One doctor even recommends that people pull their circuit breaker before bed to kill all power in the house (Dr. Herbert Ross, author of “Sleep Disorders”).
  • Keep the temperature in the bedroom no higher than 70 degrees F. Many people keep their homes and particularly the upstairs bedrooms too hot.
  • Eat a high-protein snack several hours before bed. This can provide the L-tryptophan need to produce melatonin and serotonin.
  • Reduce or avoid as many drugs as possible. Many medications, both prescription and over-the-counter may have effects on sleep. In most cases, the condition, which caused the drugs to be taken in the first place, can be addressed by following the guidelines elsewhere on this web site.
  • Avoid caffeine. A recent study showed that in some people, caffeine is not metabolised efficiently and therefore they can feel the effects long after consuming it. So an afternoon cup of coffee (or even tea) will keep some people from falling asleep. Also, some medications, particularly diet pills contain caffeine.
  • Alarm clocks and other electrical devices. If these devices must be used, keep them as far away from the bed as possible, preferably at least 3 feet.
  • Avoid alcohol. Although alcohol will make people drowsy, the effect is short lived and people will often wake up several hours later, unable to fall back asleep. Alcohol will also keep you from falling into the deeper stages of sleep, where the body does most of its healing.
  • Lose weight. Being overweight can increase the risk of sleep apnea, which will prevent a restful night’s sleep.
  • Avoid foods that you may be sensitive to. This is particularly true for dairy and wheat products, as they may have effect on sleep, such as causing apnea, excess congestion, gastrointestinal upset, and gas, among others.
  • Don’t drink any fluids within 2 hours of going to bed. This will reduce the likelihood of needing to get up and go to the bathroom or at least minimize the frequency.
  • Take a hot bath, shower or sauna before bed. When body temperature is raised in the late evening, it will fall at bedtime, facilitating sleep,
  • Remove the clock from view. It will only add to your worry when constantly staring at it… 2 a.m. …3 a.m. … 4:30 a.m. …
  • Keep your bed for sleeping. If you are used to watching TV or doing work in bed, you may find it harder to relax and to think of the bed as a place to sleep.
  • Have your adrenals checked by a good natural medicine clinician. Scientists have found that insomnia may be caused by adrenal stress (Journal of Clinical Endocrinology & Metabolism, August 2001; 86:3787-3794).
  • If you are menopausal or perimenopausal, get checked out by a good natural medicine physician. The hormonal changes at this time may cause problems if not properly addressed. – Reducing grain consumption often helps to reduce the symptoms.
  • Don’t change your bedtime. You should go to bed, and wake up, at the same times each day, even on the weekends. This will help your body to get into a sleep rhythm and make it easier to fall asleep and get up in the morning.
  • Make certain you are exercising regularly. Exercising for at least 30 minutes everyday can help you fall asleep. However, don’t exercise too close to bedtime or it may keep you awake. Studies show exercising in the morning is the best if you can do it.
  • Put your work away at least one hour (but preferably two or more) before bed. This will give your mind a chance to unwind so you can go to sleep feeling calm, not hyped up or anxious about tomorrow’s deadlines.
  • Wear an eye mask to block out light. As said above, it is very important to sleep in as close to complete darkness as possible. That said, it’s not always easy to block out every stream of light using curtains, blinds or drapes, particularly if you live in an urban area (or if your spouse has a different schedule than you do). In these cases, an eye mask can help to block out the remaining light.
  • Go to the bathroom right before bed. This will reduce the chances that you’ll wake up to go in the middle of the night.
  • Establish a bedtime routine. This could include meditation, deep breathing, using aromatherapy or essential oils or indulging in a massage from your partner. The key is to find something that makes you feel relaxed, then repeat it each night to help you release the day’s tensions.

Results are 100% a mental game. Here’s my take on what it takes..

diet mondayWell the reality is getting results requires a slightly different approach for everyone, but some things, like the mental approach to change and implementing habits I’ve found from coaching clients and observing my own self talk, is similar regardless of the special diet or exercise regime you are asked to follow.

The following is what I believe goes through our heads (including my own) and some tips to overcome the self talk and FINALLY get results;

1 a. I’m going to start the new diet (or insert new habit here) Monday.

1 b. You really mean it when you say it but unless you are planned with your time and preparation for whatever needs to happen, and understand that stuff ain’t going to go your way on Monday AND you will have to have an iron will and wits about you (especially on the first day or two of a new regime).. You Will likely cave.

How do I know? Because I often do the same thing! In fact sometimes I make the rules so hard for myself I can’t start for months of Mondays in a row :).

What you can do: The best prep is to know that the first day isn’t going to go your way and that you are going to do it anyway. Start with a habit at a time, this really does help. Be prepared.

Trust me as the days go on, it DOES get easier, a lot easier.

drink2 a. It’s not fair that all the other girls eat drink xxxxxx (insert your favourite food or drink here) and they ARE skinny, I must just have xxxxxx (faulty genes, a slow thyroid or insert excuse here).

2 b. We absolutely have to stop blaming other peoples luck and our misfortune and instead take full responsibility for where we are and how we are going to there, and yes some people have a different body composition to you, but really so what? What makes us think it was always easy for them? Or that they aren’t suffering from a terminal illness.. Heaven forbid.

But my message here is to be grateful for what you have that DOES work, your arms and your legs if you have them and stick to the plan and get on with it.

What you can do: Focus with ninja like focus on YOURSELF and your own game and try to compare yourself to others less. A lot less.

3 a. I’m not changing/I can’t see results – so there’s no point!

3 b. I beg to differ, In fact if you don’t already feel a lot better after the first week of your new habit, I bet you are possibly already getting compliments (if not you will by the 3rd or 4th week) and of course, in typical female manner (sorry fellas) you’re not taking the compliments on board.

The only way I know of to overcome this is to stop putting yourself down and have your results measured somehow.

What you can do: Either do your circumferences with a tape measure weekly (eg. Around your waist , butt etc). Take a photo of yourself weekly, get your body fat tested weekly. (I prefer not to encourage people, mainly women, to use the scales as it’s not an indication of gaining muscle tissue and gaining muscle tissue IS what you want. Plus us women use the number on the scales to dictate if we are going to have a bad day or not…. It’s just silly really).

Measure your results until you CAN be objective with yourself. This personally took me two years of having my body fat measured weekly until I thought, you know what I can tell the reaction food is having with my body and I’m happy with it and understand how to adjust it. More importantly, I love and respect it anyway.

Click here to see more about my personal fat loss journey.

If you would like more ideas on how to measure your results or get out of your own way, don’t hesitate to drop me a line, I’ll be more than happy to call you to see if I can help.

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