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Dealing with Change…

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Dealing with change..

<< That’s my inspiration right there in the back seat.

So whats the hardest thing you’ve dealt with so far in your life?

A time when you may have been left to fend for yourself? Or

When your reality is turned on it’s head?

When what you thought exists, all of a sudden, no longer exists.

Getting ‘tough’ to these situations, I’ve come to realise IS the reason I subconsciously put myself in uncomfortable situations. You know, to build up resistance just in case the unspeakable, the unpredictable, the unlikely (although I’m not really one to spend much time guessing what’s going to happen in the future. I’d prefer to choose it myself), ever happens..

But this tough-ness thing. Well people have asked me how did I get so ‘tough’ (I’m not saying I am tough, because I don’t personally feel tough. Actually I feel too young to even be talking about the topic, but anyway.)

People have asked me in the past, how did you Handle that…?

The becoming a single mum thing.

The not working much, thing, to having to provide for yourself, thing.. or choosing to provide for yourself.

And being so relaxed etc.. or appear to ‘handle’ it all.

And I don’t have an answer. (By the way I am not relaxed… as those close to me will attest.)

But upon reflection, and yeeaaars after having my reality stripped from me, is that the situation did me a huge favour.

After a very painful period, of course.

I now expect nothing to remain the same, which let’s face it.. is one of the only certainties in life.

Uncertainty.

The strength and courage with which you face and deal with situations is the only real armour you have to deal with change.

Change is definitely going to happen and you can be the cause of it, or you can learn to react to situations that are thrown upon you and then you change, while kicking, screaming and crying about it, or you can react with grace and smoothly change course, the choice is always ours.

(I do believe a good cry is MORE than necessary though to process things faster.)

What I do know is that the pain serves a reason.

Somewhere in the future, there will come a time when you look back and say thank god it happened that way.

You will, trust me.

I don’t have more words of wisdom about this topic, in fact I don’t even feel experienced in life enough to be offering words of wisdom on the topic, it’s just that people ask.

I’ll tell you what I do know though… which I have my mum to thank for.

That is – ‘everything will be alright’. Always. It always is.

The choice of how full you see the glass is always yours and tomorrow is another day. You and I will be more than O.K. That’s a fact.

And oh – While I have your attention – I forgot to tell you guys last week about the release of my new book. ‘Making You – Mind Mastery for Fast Fat Loss’.

It’s about all things health and the mindset it takes to get what you want from your body, plus I share about my journey the past few years. Plus all the tips and tricks I have used over the years to get clients the best results with their bodies, as fast as possible.

Grab a pen while you read too – As it is more of a workbook. There are many many exercises for you to ‘make it yours’.

I’d love you to have it and tell me what you think! The link is below, feel free to download it and share it with anyone you think may benefit

>> Click the link here to get my new book for 99c U.S. << (when you click the link it will ask you to download the kindle App, then you can read it on ANY device! 🙂 You don’t need to own a kindle. Please leave a review as I’d love to know what you think!

Taking care of YOU – come away with me

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It will feel selfish. Until you understand, feel and know on a cellular level that you are creating a better you. That after doing it for a while you really are a better version of YOU for doing it. A stronger version. A good example version.

A better for the kids, better for your partner – if you have one, better for all your relationships, friends and colleagues. Most importantly you feel better in yourself. Whole. Complete. Energetic. Passionate. Dare I say – Sexy?

Not that all of that matters – although I know we all feel like it does, we do so much for others in turn to feel better about ourselves. I’m not suggesting that caring for others is negative in any way. I just know from personal experience and also watching my clients, that if you are not feeling amazing, well it’s pretty hard not be amazing for everyone else, right?

Helping you do this is why I do what I do. I love empowering women to be and feel there best. It’s also why I’ve created this deep immersion into you and your health, retreat in August this year.

Here’s more about what you will get from it;

You will be blown away with the next level of connection you develop with yourself after this…

With the unbreakable bond you gain between you and your fellow attendees…

With the next level of honour, care and deep self love you will gain for yourself…

You will get to know, understand, love and explore yourself on a deeper and more profound level…

It’s true what they say, real results in health and life, come from developing a deep respect and love for your body.

More details; ‘Making You’ Feminine Power Retreat, in August on the beautiful Gold Coast in Queensland.

Some of what will be included is; Meditation, Exercise, Nutrition Lessons, One on One Health Analysis, Creativity exercises, Special Guest Speakers, Massage plus much, much more.

Investment; $3000 – Payment plan options available. Includes ALL costs (including flights within Australia if you get in early).

It will be more than amazing and I’d love to have you there. xx
Enter your details >>here<< and I will personally contact you with more details and to see if it will be the right ‘fit’ for you…

xx Kate

Has your thinking got you paralyzed?

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Do you think too much before taking action?
Below are 5 steps to get over your paralysis by analysis.

I’m sure you have heard the expression.. Analysing things to make sure the steps you are going to take are actually the right ones and that you won’t fail when you do finally start. The problem is this behaviour tends to see you pausing for a VERY LONG TIME.. and actually not starting at all (or giving up too easily when you fail). Probably not something which is productive if you want to get results in a certain area of your life, agree?

Anyway I see it all the time in my industry, as people are sooooo confused because of all the information out there. When if they just started, just actually did something, lots of times anything, they’d have more power and flow to be able to make a change in their path if that’s what was needed.

Instead they go by one of the many quotes they’ve read that might have said something like “Fatloss won’t work if you don’t do ‘x, y, z’ – and in the right order”.

So by not starting they are intellectually procrastinating. And probably just falling for marketing of some kind..
In fact worrying about getting things perfect in any area of your life ain’t that productive so here’s my take on what you can do about it… but you have to implement today, ok? haha – scared or not.

My tips are influenced by the fact that I’ve noticed a trend amongst the winners in the fat loss game. I’ll let you in on a few secrets of what I’ve found out and here are my top 5 tips to overcome your paralysis and get started towards results and being a more amazing version of yourself. (More about joining my group of online chicky babes who GET results in a minute)

1. You have injuries and you ‘can’t exercise’.

Great!

Train another body part then. Sore back, train your arms. Sore knees, train your upper body. Sore neck, train your lower body.

Although breaking it into sections will sometimes go against ‘what you know’, but you want results right? So try something different.

People who exercise regularly get injuries, they aren’t just a lucky bunch of injury free people.

However they (and soon you) find something they can do regardless. Consistency is the key. Turn up and DO SOMETHING, ANYTHING. That brings me to point 2,

2. TURN UP – Worry about what you are going to do WHEN you get there, not after the alarm goes off for example.

3. Get accountable to someone. Maybe someone to a. learn from, or b. be scared of. Don’t let this person let you use your excuses, otherwise what’s the point? More of the same equals more of the same.

4. Learn how to fix the problem you have to overcome (Injury or internal dialogue of your own). Working on yourself is a constant art form of creating a more amazing you. Often it’s the internal dialogue and our patterns and habits need help to change but it all starts with being honest with yourself. And asking the right questions. Want help? It’s out there just ask for it.

5. Some day is NOW. Otherwise someday is never. the excuses you use now, will continue to stop them if you let them. Don’t be overwhelmed. Change happens gradually, but easily once you get onto a good thing. Change one thing at a time and do it because you love and respect yourself, not to punish your body.

Go create a more awesome version of you x

Let me know if you need a hand.

Registrations are now open for my post baby weight loss FULLY ONLINE 12 week Program. Click the link to register your details. I cover EVERYTHING and YOU GET RESULTS! 🙂 This program is my heart and soul, everything from nutrition to mindset, recipes and programs for gym and at home. Places are limited each round. The time is NOW 🙂 Click here to apply.

Chicky babes only please.

Me Fat vs. Now – How I used to think

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My aim with this post is to help you shorten your pain and frustration if you are in any,

while you are trying to ‘get healthy’ or ‘lose weight’.

Here we go;

As soon as my eyes were open in the morning this is what Id’ think;

THEN: I can’t believe I’m this fat, I should know what to do to change, I’m a personal trainer 🙁

insert picture here of someone squeezing their fat and having a very sad face 🙁

NOW: I am so grateful for this little healthy girl who’s just woken me up… and I’m also grateful for… x, y, z. (the list changes daily) – Sometimes I still have to fight off the habit off squeezing any fat and saying negative things to myself, but I’m definitely winning that war. Distraction is a great thing.

NO I’m not saying I’m fat, but see how we all do our own heads in with this talk? – I’m similar to you, we are all a work in progress.

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THEN: It doesn’t matter that I eat this packet of raw cookie dough as I’m fat anyway and completely bored with my life.

NOW: I’m conscious of what I’m eating. I mostly follow ‘paleo’ eating (I have done for approx 12 years) although I sometimes add carbs like sweet potato, potato and some rice. Most importantly I’m mindful – and present, while I’m eating it… even when I do overdose on the odd family block of Kit Kat or Potato cakes.

See, I still have treats (or eat off the plan), often several times each week but it doesn’t happen as often as it used to – plus it makes me feel sick which is a real deterrent. And I just want to add, I don’t sit there and put myself down while I’m doing it, I enjoy it. I now think, oh well, this might disrupt my sleep and I’m going to feel a little ‘hung over’ from the food tomorrow so I just know that’s going to happen and the world won’t end (I also try not to make major life changing decisions on these days haha – as that’s how I ended up in Melbourne, coming from Sydney. I made a tired decision, long funny story that one).

OH ALSO A Damage Control Supplement Tip: I also take 2-3 fish oil (or borage seed oil) capsules immediately afterwards, AND 1 Green Tea capsule, so my blood sugar doesn’t spike too high and then crash (which leads to the growth of more fat cells, one feeling more ‘crap’ for want of a better technical term and not to mention a damaged pancreas).

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THEN: Just do functional exercise as it uses your whole body at once for more of a fat burning effect, and it’s great for stability and strength.

NOW: I’ve realised the more full body circuit / running / long cardio workouts I do, the tired-er I get. (This has only effected me post baby I might add, which is why I sometimes like to take it out of mumma’s weekly exercise routines when they are my clients). I’m not saying don’t EVER do them, I’m just saying listen to your body, it knows and maybe there’s no need to bash it into being how you want it.

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THEN: Who’s body is this?? I hate it!!… (I used to run into things with my hips for the first little while after I had my daughter, then I got used to being bigger – which was depressing in itself). I completely disrespected myself and I thought that if I bashed myself up enough that would lead to me finally getting my size 10 body back post baby. But 4 Years after having her I was still close to 90 kg and a size 16-18 🙁

NOW: I’m stuck with this body for life, I will nourish it, respect it and damn well get it to do what I want by working with it, not pushing against it. Rather I need to develop patience.

I really had to let go of what I knew to be ‘the best way’ of exercising and eating and I had to try new things 🙂

It also helps that I have dived into, and I am incredibly grateful for, my work and the ability or career choice of making my life about helping other people, as soppy as that sounds. There’s nothing (that I’ve found) to be as effective to make you forget about your troubles as contributing to others and being around other people. So maybe you could get a cause bigger than yourself?

For a more detailed explanation of my post baby weight loss story, click to have a look at these videos I made here. They pretty much bare all.

Maybe you are not on a weight loss journey, maybe you are just on a ‘learn a new skill’ journey… I hope you can get something out of my story. I know I learnt to try new things rather than pushing crap up hill, so to speak.. by repeating old methods, day in day out, even though they weren’t working.

One simple example was that I had been exercising longer instead of smarter… To the detriment of my body as I got very, very tired, (and all you mums out there know you can’t afford to work, run a house and have a sleep in the middle of the day).

Here’s the link to my post baby weight loss videos again.

For now, stop bashing yourself. Love yourself instead. Know that you WILL get there, where ever you are going.

You are already amazing xx

Sorry are you too tired to want to get laid? – how wrong was I in that last post!

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Apologies if you are a sleep deprived mum who’s exercising purely for her sanity, if at all. You see one of my lovely readers just wrote back to me in response to that last post telling me she’s too tired to want to get laid. Wow do I remember that feeling! I’d completely forgotten.

At the moment I’m sure there’s a million things you could think of that you’d rather do than have sex. (999,999 of those being to get some sleep perhaps?).

You see I’m rather lucky now my daughter is a little older and I share her with her father every second weekend. So I get to have my own ‘private’ life and I forget what it’s like to have small children running around and never getting ANY time to yourself.

I also know that I wasn’t interested after having my child until I raised my zinc (red blood cell) levels back to waaaayyyyyy above the norm for Australian standards. You see Zinc helps to raise your testosterone levels, naturally. Read more about zinc and how to test your levels click here.

Until then, nurture yourself and have some ‘you’ time without the guilt. Do whatever it is that makes you a more awesome person to be around and better parent, friend, spouse, sister, brother, aunty or uncle.

Chat to you soon,

x Kate