I’d love to get results but my friends think I’m weird or crazy for… (Fill in the blank).
So in your attempt to get healthy you may sometimes feel like you may lose your friends?
Every week clients say to me that they feel like as they implement their new health habits they are going to have to ‘Not see their friends’, ‘Never go out again’, ‘Not start the new healthy routine until after the x y z weekend or event has finished’.
I know how you feel trust me, it’s normal to feel this way what starting something you haven’t done before and someone is asking you to do something ‘way out there’ as far as you are concerned.
Not only do you feel isolated in that you can’t hang out with your friends at social occasions because everything involves food, but that you can’t drink? What? Is your trainer crazy? What do they think this is? that you have no life? How are you suppose to be able to go to boozy lunches with friends, a beer with the fellas, have a latte with a weekend breakfast, socialise and not be the odd one out because you are ordering something separate or different on the menu at your friends dinner, or heaven forbid your trainer expects you to ‘take your own food’ to an event??
Who are these people, your trainers, do they not have a life? Do they not know what it’s like to have to socialise? Have friends? To go out to dinner, the party, a wedding, a bar mitzvah? whatever.. you get my point.
Well let me share this with you my dear client 😉 Actually we do know how it feels as we are part of society too remember, it’s just that we have discovered something, a little thing called results and how to get them, and you came to us, remember, to ask how to get them.
And no we are not asking you to join some weird club where you are not allowed to hang out with your friends, go to any more social events, or that you have to stay home and not go out ever again. We are not telling you that for the rest of your life you have to do anything at all. What we are telling you is a few ‘big bang for your buck’ lifestyle changes that once made, will give you enormous results, usually within a couple of weeks if you can do what we ask. We are purely here to help you shortcut the time it take you to get results and lessen your frustrations when it comes to exercise and nutrition and how to get the body you want.
No matter the diet, or exercise regime you go on, things only work when you do. Yep that’s the magic secret sorry, you are going to have to put your head down bum up and follow something strictly (no I don’t believe in making clients go hungry, but you do have to follow the rules, so to speak, especially if it’s only the last 5kg, or a half to a dress size that you have to lose).
If you want to get results fast or at minimum implement 1-2 of the habits that your trainer asks you to do per week. (I find the later gets the best long term results for clients)..
My suggestions when it comes to socialising/friends and influences:
I suggest you don’t use google, use the references your trainer gives you or ask if you need more info. And I really suggest you don’t ask your friends opinions (unless they have the body and health or lifestyle you want?) … So yep this might mean you can’t tell your opinionated friends about the health advice you are following and you probably don’t want to be enlightening them with your new found knowledge either, unless of course they have told you that they definitely want to hear about it.
Yep, you may have to stop telling some of your friends every little detail about what you are doing, unless you want them to tell you how crazy or stupid you are for doing ‘x y z’.
I personally have some super healthy friends that I discuss some things with and some others who I discuss other things with and I love all of them but I try not to force my opinions onto others ears about health unless they really want to know, something I’ve learnt over the years is they don’t usually want to know.
So my suggestion to you would be sometimes you are going to have to ‘suck it up’ if you want results. Things you can do to get results now:
- Eat before you go to your event.
- Take your food with you.
- Keep your healthy lifestyle changes to yourself unless someone asks.
- Make more friends that eat carrots 😉
- And take me with a grain of salt. Everything in moderation.
Cheers! I’m off to get a Cocktail because life is about balance and I’m out of the office at the moment 😉